Navigating Valentine’s Day as a Jewish single
By Ray Alyssa Rothman
Valentine’s Day is a special day to most Americans, however, it is more difficult if you are single. Valentine’s Day has evolved significantly from its origins as a religious holiday to a largely secular celebration of love and affection, particularly in America. The day is named after St. Valentine, a Christian martyr, whose legacy has been adapted over the centuries. While the roots of Valentine’s Day are steeped in religious tradition, it has transformed into a commercialized event that emphasizes romantic love, often overshadowing its historical significance.
From a Jewish perspective, love is a core value that resonates deeply within the tradition. The Torah and other Jewish texts emphasize the importance of love and companionship, particularly in the context of family and community. The concept of “Ahavat Yisrael,” or love for one’s fellow Jew, is central to Jewish life. Thus, while Valentine’s Day may not hold traditional significance for Jews, it can serve as a reminder of the importance of love in all its forms—romantic, platonic, and familial.
For singles navigating Valentine’s Day, it can be a time of reflection and self-love rather than a source of distress. Here are some helpful tips:
- Celebrate Self-Love: Take the opportunity to pamper yourself. Treat yourself to a favorite meal, engage in a hobby, or indulge in self-care activities. Recognizing your worth is vital.
- Connect with Friends: Organize a gathering with friends to celebrate platonic love. Sharing laughter and experiences can create a positive atmosphere that counters the romantic emphasis of the day.
- Volunteer or Give Back: Use this day to spread love in your community. Volunteering can not only uplift others but also foster a sense of belonging and purpose.
- Explore New Interests: Consider joining groups or classes that align with your passions. Classes led by rabbis are a great option. This can lead to new friendships and possibly romantic connections in the future.
- Practice Gratitude: Reflect on the relationships you do have and the love that exists in your life, whether it’s from family, friends, or the Jewish community. This perspective can enhance your appreciation for the connections you cherish.
While Valentine’s Day may not align directly with Jewish traditions, it offers an opportunity to celebrate love in its many forms. For singles, it can be a day of self-appreciation, connection, and community engagement, reinforcing the idea that love, in all its expressions, is worth celebrating.
Ray Alyssa Rothman is a commercial real estate broker in Atlanta that also works with high-net-worth individuals on debt and equity transactions. Her side business is Kibbitz & Konnect, the premier in-person social network for singles to mix and mingle (www.kibbitzkonnect.org).
